Saturday, February 25, 2006
January 2004 : Took our first Mapp class
January 12 2004: Mailed out our references to friends; for them to fill out
February 2004: Completed our Mapp training in the middle of the month
February 22 2004: Our first homestudy appointment & fingerprinting
February 28 2004: Our second homestudy appointment
March 28 2004: Licensed Foster Parents!!!!!!
April 1 2004: First placement. "A" 3 1/2 yeard old girl & "B" 4 months old boy.
April 21 2004: Returned to Biomom
April 24 2004: J & G brothers 9 &7 years old. We knew they were a temporary placement
May 14 2004: J & G returned to grandma
May 15 2004: Baby J 12 month old boy.
May 16 2004: Returned to biomom; who had hit him with a claw part of hammer
June 1 2004: T a 3 yr old girl
June 27 2004: T reunited with biodad
July 3 2004: Baby M 2 month old girl
July 9 2004: Baby M taken in by grandma
August 9 2004: Received call on Baby S; she will be placed w us when she is discharged from hospital
August 19 2004: Baby S taken home by us
December 21 2004: Baby S bioparents signed TPR!!!!
April 2005: Bioparents rights legally terminated
May 2004:P Assigned an adoption caseworker
February 13 2006: Adoption Finalized!!!!!!!!!! Thank God!!!!
Friday, February 24, 2006
So now we have 2 ointments to use on every diaper change. It is horrible. She is in so much pain it just makes me cry! I made up my own special little mixture for a diaper rash creme to put over the medicine. The Pediatrician thought I should "market" my concoction! But it really does help her. So in honor of my poor little diaper rashed girl; I named it after her. Beara's Bum Butter. Her nickname is Beara....(rhymes with her name).
Wednesday, February 22, 2006
Saturday, February 18, 2006
2. Enforce a maximum age limit to be a foster parent. Im only saying this because I have seen several 70+ year olds applying to be foster parents to TEENAGERS!!! That is just ridiculous in my opinion. I am 26 and I dont think I have enough of an energy level to tackle having teens around!!!! Come on, how would a person that old even discipline a teen who especially has grown up "in the system".
3. After a child comes into state custody, I would like to see them stay IN care for at least 7 days before a emergency shelter hearing is held. To have proper investigation of the reason WHY they were placed to begin with. My husband and I where placed with a 12 month old litle boy; and the judge sent him back to his mother within 24 hours. This boy was placed in our care after being hit with the claw side of a hammer by his mom. Seems the judge thought there was not enough evidence;other than the 2 prog claw makes that traveled the back length of his body to prove it was intentional......
4. There is a HORRIBLE shortage of foster parents where I am from. My caseworker told me the other day they had 458 homes and 1580 children in care in our county only.......Most homes are overfilled...I would like to see more advertising and education on recruiting GOOD foster parents....Youd be surprised at how many actually do it for the meager check you receive for each child you have....Sick....
Well I guess that is a good start for now...Im sure I will think of many more things to bitch about when it comes to foster care............
Friday, February 17, 2006
Thursday, February 16, 2006
Wednesday, February 15, 2006
Monday, February 13, 2006
Saturday, February 11, 2006
Friday, February 10, 2006
I remember the day I picked up our daughter from the hospital. It was a warm summer day. She was 11 days old. She had spent the past 11 days in the NICU. We were not allowed to visit her until her discharge day. I was so sad, everyday I called the hospital to see if “today was the day”. She was a preemie; born 7 weeks early. She spent most of her days under the bili light treating her jaundice. At birth she weighed 4 lbs 6 oz. Tiny but perfect. They told me she had a few bradycardia episodes (slow heart rate) which gradually resolved. She was born exposed to cocaine. But you would not know it if you were to look at her. She was so peaceful and not fussy at all. She never went through withdraws thank god! When I first saw her I fell in love. I had to take the discharge class, and she had to pass her hearing test and car seat test. She passed both with flying colors. Then I had to feed her before we could leave. I had never held a baby so small before. I was so nervous. She ate good for me and we packed up her things. The nurse told me, “ Im so glad she is going to a loving family. We were all worried about her. No one has ever come to see her the whole time she was here.” What????!!!! I was sooo upset. The state worker said I could not visit Baby S, but I assumed maybe someone would visit from her bio family. Nope. No one. How sad for 11 days my daughter had no one. Did she feel forgotten? I hope not. I buckled her in her seat. Got everything set up in the car. And away we went. OMG. I was a mommy. I didn’t know for how long, but right now I WAS a mommy!!! Then I panicked myself. I got sooo nervous and scared that I had to pull off the road to throw up! What a sight that was I bet! Good thing she had no clue! We made it home safely though. My jitters and butterfly stomach had resolved. And I was a mommy.
“Glucosamine delays the effect of insulin in the body, sending glucose directly to your
Muscles for energy, instead of being transferred & deposited as fat…”
Hmmmmmmmmm. Sure beats paying a hefty sum for the Metformin my doctor said I would have to use to get my periods back. Who knows maybe I’ll actually get pregnant. I wouldn’t mind having another baby. But honestly; I would rather adopt than have a biological child. I think I would feel like I would be betraying Baby S if I had a biological baby. Does that make sense??? I don’t even know if I could possibly love another child as much as I love my little S.
Thursday, February 09, 2006
RACE OF CHILD?
WHY IS THE CHILD IN STATE CUSTODY?
WHEN DID THE CHILD COME INTO CUSTODY?
HAS THE CHILD BEEN IN STATE CUSTODY BEFORE?
HEALTH PROBLEMS WITH CHILD?
PHYSICAL PROBLEMS WITH CHILD?
MENTAL PROBLEMS WITH CHILD?
ANY AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIORS?
HOW LONG TO YOU THINK CHILD MIGHT BE IN STATE CUSTODY?
WAS CHILD PHYSICALLY ABUSED?
WAS CHILD SEXUALLY ABUSED?
HOW DOES CHILD ACT WITH OTHER CHILDREN?
IS THE CHILD ON ANY MEDICATIONS?
DOES THIS CHILD HAVE ANY SPECIAL NEEDS?
WHAT SIZE DOES THE CHILD WEAR?
DOES THE CHILD REQUIRE ANY SPECIAL FOODS?
DOES THE CHILD HAVE AN ALLERGIES?
DOES THE CHILD HAVE ANY CONTAGIOUS DISEASE?
SOMETIMES TO GET AN EXACT ANSWER FROM THE CASEWORKER YOU MIGHT HAVE TO ASK THE SAME QUESTION BUT SAY IT A DIFFERENT WAY. SOME OF THE QUESTIONS MAY SEEM PETTY, BUT IF YOU DO NOT ASK THEM, THEY WILL NOT TELL YOU!!!!
1. ASK QUESTIONS!!!! NO QUESTIONS IS BETTER OFF UNANSWERED!!! DON’T WORRY ABOUT OFFENDING THE CASE WORKER. THEY ARE THERE TO HELP YOU AND THEIR AGENCY!!!
2. DON’T BE AFRAID TO SAY “NO” TO A PLACEMENT. IF IT IS NOT A PLACEMENT YOU DO NOT FEEL COMFORTABLE WITH DON’T DO IT!!! TRUST ME THEY WILL CALL YOU AGAIN FOR ANOTHER PLACEMENT!!!!!
3. BE UPFRONT WITH WHAT TYPE OF PLACEMENT YOU WOULD CONSIDER TAKING! YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE PICKY!! IT IS YOUR HOUSE, YOUR FAMILY, YOUR LIFE!!!
4. DON’T WAIT FOR THE AGENCY TO CALL YOU FOR PLACEMENTS!!! SOMETIMES THEY DON’T CALL EVERY FAMILY. I WOULD CALL ONCE A WEEK AND SEE WHAT THEY HAD AVAILABLE. IF THE SITUATION DIDN’T SUIT ME, I WOULD THANK THEM AND DECLINE. BUT YOU BETTER BELIEVE AFTER A MONTH THEY KNEW MY NAME AND WHAT TYPE OF PLACEMENT I DESIRED!!!!
5. WHEN THEY CALL FOR A PLACEMENT GET AS MUCH INFO ON THE KIDS AS YOU CAN!!! YOU WILL HAVE TO ASK THEM BECAUSE A LOT OF TIME THEY WILL NOT GET IN DEPTH ESPECIALLY IF THERE IS A PROBLEM WITH THE KIDS.
Wednesday, February 08, 2006
Ms. Investigator: Michelle?
Me: Yes.....Can I help you??????????????
Ms. Investigator: I...ah....Just wanted to talk to you.....about a placement we might have for you
Me: Oh? Well whats going on?
Ms Investigator: Well we have an infant....and her older brother who is 2.....who were placed in
shelter status today.....the infant is on hold in the hospital....
Me: (interuptiing) a newborn????
ms Investigator: Yes.....she was born yesterday....she is in the NICU....tested positive for drugs
at birth....She will be there for a bit....but we wanted to have a home lined up
for them in the mean time.....
Me: What about the little boy?
MI: Well we are not totally sure we will place him in care......He is living with the bio dad right
now.....we have a shelter hearing later today to see where the boy goes.....
Me: So we might just get the baby only then?
MI: Yes.......probally.....we will be sure after the shelter hearing....but
Me: So do you thnk that this COULD be an adoption situation???????
MI: I really dont know...Probally not....but you never know. Mom has a history of drug abuse...
So blah blah blah......on it went....my heart dropped the moment she said newborn girl. That was my dream come true. Even though she said she didnt think the baby would go for adoption...I just had this FEELING. Like this is IT!!!! I cant explain it. But I was so sure......I KNEW.
The little boy ended up staying with his bio dad, and the newborn was placed with us. She spent 11 days in the NICU. On 8/19/04 we brought her home from the hospital. How lucky was I? I was happy just to experience a newborn, I hadnt dreamed I would have the honor of taking a baby home from the hospital!!!! It was beautiful....
Tuesday, February 07, 2006
Sunday, February 05, 2006
Saturday, February 04, 2006
1. When I got out of the military I went home. Started a semester of college. So my best friend tried to convince me to move to Florida with her. I didn't give it much thought. I was all for it. I was home for a total of 5 months before I packed my car and drove down with her. We had arranged for an apartment. That was it. We had no jobs, and I only had like $1000 to my name. My family thought I was nuts. But if I didnt move I NEVER would have met my husband or had my daughter. So that brings me to...............
2. How I met my husband. After panicking for the first 2 weeks in Florida about not having a job, I got hired at a local health system. I was scheduled to go to an orientation; which I ended up rescheduling last minute. My roomie had went on a vacation with her family and left her car at the apartment. As I was leaving to go to my orientation, my car of course WOULD NOT start. Great. I couldnt miss the prientation again or I wouldnt have a job. Without a job I could not get myc ar fixed or pay bills. So I "borrowed" my roomies car after much deliberation. So much deliberation in fact I was running late to my orientation. But to my relief I was not the only one running late!! There was another girl who had walked in right behind me; and the only 2 open seats left in the classroom where side by side....That girl was my husbands sister. After hanging out & chatting all day we exchanged numbers to hang out again....We became great friends and she introduced me to my love about 2 weeks later..............HOWS THAT FOR FATE?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?