Monday, August 07, 2006

Update

I just wanted to thank you all for your words of encouragement and support--it really means alot. He did come yesterday for a few hours to visit with Sarah and we talked. Seems like alot of what was causing the problem is our impending move north. He is having doubts about leaving his job and finding something comparable up there....Like I said this is the base of the problem...Unfortuately he is the type that lets things bother him for a long period of time and never says a thing about it--until he has reached his melting point.

There is no other woman...I knew from the beginning that was not even an issue. Some women may be skeptical--but not all situations when the husband leaves is due to infidelity.

He is staying with his sister and brother in law about 30 minutes away. When we were talking yesterday he expressed sincere regret that he left us at all. He claims he wants to work it out and come back home this week...He claims it was sheer stupidity and stubborness (sp?) that caused him to uproot as he did.

I don't know. I know I love him. I know Sarah loves him and needs him. I know he is genuinely a good man and an awesome dad.

Yesterday when he told me of his fear of leaving his job to move north; I said to him,"So is it easier for you to leave your family over your job??" I could see the reality of that statement smack him the face.

He told me today " When I am at my sisters...I look around and see all of Sarahs pictures everywhere....and I can't believe what I have done...."

He is supposed to come over tommorrow for Sarahs birthday and stay for dinner and probally the night. So I am hoping we have a better opportunity to talk.......

7 comments:

WyldJoker said...

Wow! That's bitter sweet news. While I don't support what he has done to you and Sarah I honestly feel that there is alot of regret in what he has done. Alot of wrong decisions can be made while acting in haste and panic. You're doing the right thing by talking things over and getting problems out in the open. solutions are often best reached when problems are worked on as a family. You all are in our prayers.

MamaKBear said...

Oh, Michelle! I'm sorry I missed your post the other day!

My husband is the same way when something is bothering him...he will hold it in and not talk about it until he reaches the breaking point. (Fortunately this isn't often!)

Keeping you in my thoughts, hope things can be worked out for y'all...and for Sarah! Hang in there.

Dream Mommy said...

I hope things work out for ya'll. I'm glad he realized his bad decision and is trying to mend things. Will be praying for ya'll.

Jane said...

Hello, I just came over here from Dream Mommy's blog. I'm the mom of Toots and Noodles, who we adopted from New York City foster care. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time right now. I'll say a prayer for you and your family, and put you on my bookmark list so I can check back.

Julie said...

That is good- men usually do store up their feelings- they were taught to do that- sad but true. I hope ya'll can work through this and move on. I am praying for ya'll!

Tamara said...

I'll be praying for all 3 of you as you talk and that the Lord will lead you to know what is His will is. Hubby and I struggle too. The addition of a child into the mix, and moving - yeah, we did all that in the last 2 years. I relate somewhat. Maybe a season apart can bring healing - or at least clarity. I am glad to hear he misses his daughter (and I would hope he misses you too). Keep the faith. If you seek God's will with all your heart, you can't make a wrong decision.

DramaQueen said...

I am glad that he is at least regretting his decision. I hope you both get a chance to talk it over, maybe postponing the move or helping him search for a job would make him feel better.
I think you did a good job bringing up the point "so it was easier to leave your family than your job?" He's gotta realize his family will HELP him deal with his stress and help him through the hard times, it'll just make it worse to dump everything! You're in my prayers,